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Towards Or Against Your
Desires?
By: John Halderman
Are you moving towards or against what you want?
Every action you take supports something, some result.
The question is - are you taking the actions that support the results you would
rather have in your life?
If not, are they supporting something opposite of what you want or are they
neutral? Either way they are not supporting your desires.
If you have all the same thousands of thoughts tomorrow as you did yesterday --
you will be the same as yesterday.
Us humans have the type of brains that we have for a reason, so that we can
change our lives. We don't need to keep doing and living the same over and over.
To get anywhere, a group of small steps put together in the same direction lead
you to your destination. But if your thoughts and behaviors do not lead down the
path of your desire, where are you going? You will at least be delayed by the
inconsistency of your actions or even halt any progress all together.
There is always a reaction to every action, everything you think and do leads to
something. Is it what you want or not? What you live with now is the result of
previous thoughts and actions.
Everything is perpetuated when you continue to take the same actions.
So, desiring something different is great, but you need to adjust your thinking
and your actions in order for anything to be different.
In order to see and live something different, you must gradually take more
action towards what you want and less against. You will always be supporting
something, which will it be?
The way to begin change is to take a look at what you are doing each day and
make appropriate adjustments that support your desires. If you leave this up to,
'when I think about it', you will soon forget about it.
To succeed, set up a small system to interact with on a daily basis, something
you can schedule and plan into your day, something you will be more likely to
get into a routine with, something to interact with, utilizing more of your
senses.
Take the time to think about what you did and what you thought about, at the end
of each day.
With this you begin to see that you have a choice over your thoughts and actions
rather than continuing to let everything be automatic.
Write your discoveries down and analyze them - do they help move you towards or
against the life you want?
You can do this at the end of the day just before going to bed or first thing in
the morning. Do what works for you. If you find you can't remember enough in the
morning, better do it at night.
Don't let frustration with failure to immediately change get you to stop your
efforts. At first you might automatically revert back to how you have done it
before, as this is your habit. And habits want to remain as they are. You must
be persistent.
At first you may not even notice that you have not changed your action until
when you sit down to analyze the day. After as while you will begin to notice
during the day whether you have reverted back or stayed on track. At some point
you will catch yourself as you are doing what you don't want to do, and then you
become aware just before you do it, enabling yourself to choose to do it
differently.
Stick with it. Small daily adjustments in how you
think and act can lead to huge changes in your life if you persist. Failure
never meant stop, it means - try again!
Changing your life to be how you envision usually does not happen with one large
event; rather it is the compilation of small changes you make in your thinking
and action.
Remember action - reaction? Doing something towards change once in a while will
give you once in awhile results.
Start with something small and not very emotionally charged and you will find
that your small successes will lead to more confidence and determination
enabling you to increase your personal power over your habits.
Personal growth is your responsibility - you decide to go towards or against
what you really want each day.
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John Halderman, writes and speaks with intent on
helping you get effective results with your personal growth. For
self-improvement tools, tips and resources for living a satisfying life get the
"Effective Personal Development Newsletter" and a bonus report http://www.activepersonaldevelopment.com
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